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Relationship questions, every newlywed has them. Of course, friends and definitely family members seem to know “the correct answer” and offer it up freely, as I recall. Sounds typical right? One would also assume that by midlife most marriage or relationship questions have been answered. I am guilty of that assumption and you know what they say about assume…. Midlife or not, think again because as relationships evolve new questions arise. Midlife is filled with as much emotion as puberty if you ask me. It would be nice if there were a place for relationship or marriage answers without engaging in those “correct responses” by friends or family.
Before you run from this sponsored post, this is not some “rubbish for a buck” information. TwoofUs.org does offer common sense tips on keeping your relationship fresh. Sometimes the answers to relationship questions are resolved simply by knowing you are not alone. Learning how other couples deal with similar questions or feelings is comforting and for me, results in a calmer personal assessment.
For example, I read Sustaining Your Marriage as an Empty Nester or Retiree. The need to be re-connected after the kids leave is a truth and one I never considered. Life changes and disconnect can be unrealized. The blog post is very well written, prompted assessment of my situation, and offered insight I didn’t even consider. Reconnecting with hubby rekindled the old passions and gave birth to some new passions too.
“Couples who feel connected are better able to overcome the challenges of mid life. They can enjoy a fulfilling retirement not only as a couple, but as active members within their circle of family and friends. ”
Just as Content is King in blogging, Dialog is King in building long lasting relationships. Ever heard of a conversation party? This video is brief summary of what happens when people engage in a conversation party.
CSI: NY Actor Hill Harper on Relationships In this interview with Dr. Rozario Slack, award-winning actor and best-selling author Hill Harper tackles misconceptions about marriage, men and family … and how to strengthen relationships between black men and women.
While the video may not directly target midlife couples, I think it is a brilliant idea. I read another article with tips on reconnecting after the kids are gone. Pursue a hobby together, go on a date, plan a second honeymoon trip, or initiate a romantic evening at home were my favorites. Wouldn’t it be productive and fun to incorporate those tips into a conversation party? I think it would be a huge hit!
Now that I’ve shared with you, my question is how do you keep the passion going in a long lasting relationship/marriage?
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When you are in that point of your life where all simple, little things done by spouse get your criticism then you can stop and ponder, “What did I ever see in him?” Now, asking this question will surely get you traveling along memory lane, and you will remember the things that got you attracted to him in the first place. Don’t destroy the reminiscence by saying, “He’s not that same man”. Instead look at him in that perspective, and you will have the chance to rekindle all the old feelings. I do it when I’m so fed up with my hubby some of the time:)
Hi Kathy, thanks for sharing your thoughts about this topic with us. Pursuing a hobby together and going on a second (or even third) honeymoon are all wonderful ideas to keep a long relationship going. There are plenty of different ways to rekindle the romance and passion, one way my partner and I deal with this is to be realistic about our situation. We know that there really is nothing like the “getting to know you” stage, and we are way past that. So rather than fantasizing about a crazy getaway in hopes of renewing our love, we find joy in regular activities like family picnics and going on a movie date night. We make sure that when we spend these times together, we refrain from discussing our finances and other domestic responsibilities. What is important is to find some time together where the focus of attention is on each other and nothing else. Amy Turner has a good tip on her comment, to remember what attracted you to one another in the first place.